Why men love bitches

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So i was reading one of my favorite message boards and the recommendation of the book “Why men love bitches.” came up. I looked up the book on amazon and luckily the first chapter of the book was put up for free. I read it and felt sad when the first chapter was over.

I really need to purchase this book because i feel like i am too nice when it comes to this dating thing. I have noticed that a lot of times, us women are always overcompensating for men just to get them to make it official. I see girls going out of their way to cook meals, have sex, do laundry and showcase our domestic, “wifey” skills for men who haven’t even made it official with them. For why? to show them that we can cook, clean and whatnot so if they see us doing this stuff for them they will be ready to get on one knee and propose.

The purpose of this book is not to tell women to be bitches as in be a cold, hard to deal with women. It is telling us to be assertive, not overcompensate and not come off as desperate when dealing with men. I see it all the time, a guy loses interest in a woman and she wonders why since she supposedly did everything right. Guys do not go out of their way to overcompensate so why do we?

I have noticed on the dating websites i have guys who live more than half an hour away messaging me and then they decide i am not worth driving such a distance to see. You see, they won’t go out their way to do such nice things for a random ass girl so why do we women go out of our way to please them? If it is anything we should be giving these guys a mental challenge and have them do most of the work.

In the end it should be us women who should be making the final/ultimate decision on whether we want to be with these guys or not. None of this,”where is this relationship going?” business. If it is anything we should be hearing that sentence from men. Men always claim they want a nice gal’ who will cook for them, not a bitch etc  etc….but that doesn’t mean we should be giving them all these things when they have yet to make the commitment. It all makes sense to me now.

This is why i do not listen to these dumb articles that claim that women should pursue men and go out of their way to do so. Yeah, that works out so well. Not! I will be purchasing this book and will be reading it over winter break.